I remember the day I got my first bicycle..I was in 8th standard..(yeah..I learnt cycling that late u see!!!)..I was so happy dat the moment I saw my dad with that black Hercules sporty bicycle..I just snatched it from his hands and took it to the park only to realise that hey..I first need to know how to cycle it!!..I decided and promised to myself that I will learn to cycle in next 15 days...I remember that on the very 16th day..I went to my school on the cycle..!! cool right!!:)
After 6 months my school changed..and now I had to go on my school bus..8 AM to 3 PM I used to be in school..then coaching and then home..studying..doing homework and then sleeping!..I was not getting time for my beloved cycle and I knew that..but couldnt help it..and then time went by..Whenever I used to see my cycle lying at a corner I could see my relationship with it fading..It existed obviously..but was it the same??..The answer was no..the cycle and I were separated by the distance that was created by the circumstances..I am not blaming anything or anyone..but how does that make a difference..!!?? my relationship had weakened..! And then I got a scooter..:)..I dun even remember what happened to my cycle after it!!
Actually I have a very simple explanation for this complex phenomenon..We human beings hate distances..we hate it coz we are extremely poor at maintaining LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS..When things are around us..we love them..understand them..develop a bonding with them..trust them..but then when they go away..we tend to forget them..though we try our best to keep them alive in our memories..but only for some time..coz after that we lose contact..we almost cease to love them..we fail to understand them.. (though we try our best not to..but all our efforts fail infront of the distance!!)..and then those things are replaced with some other 'INTERESTING' things.. once again..I am not blaming anyone or anything..Its just the way we humans are!!!..we hate distances..we love to be loved!!
This relationship can be with anything ..your old guitar..or ur bike.or ur car..or anything..try using ur old computer at home..u will definitely find it difficult to locate the folder you last stored your data into..and on the contrary..just take out your new laptop..you will exactly remember where your songs are..where your movies are and etc etc!!..The point is that when you get distant with something..u start losing its memories..and this memory loss aggravates with time!!..It doesnt mean that you totally forget things..(obviously you wont forget ur computer or how to use it..!!)..but then on the other hand, u hardly remember anything!!..silly human mind!!
So, when my friend and her 6 years old boyfriend..(who shifted to some other country) broke up..I wasnt at all shocked..(I was sad though..and i felt extremely bad..)..
They had their reasons for breaking up obviously I dun know them..but then whatever the reasons may be..I am pretty sure that had they been with each other they would have figured out a solution for staying together..but then the distance factor played its dirty part..and that is pretty obvious guys..it took me six months and my relationship with my cycle was gone!!..Now try to understand here..cycle is static (a non living thing)..it doesnt have any bondings or anything lively..Now if the DISTANCE FACTOR can ruin my relationship with a static bicycle..imagine what impact it can have when it comes in between two dynamic(read non-static) lives..two human beings..and they wont even be able to resist this distance factor coz as i earlier explained..the memory fundamental..silly human mind u see!!..it will forget things..no matter how much you try!!
Now you might be thinking of giving me examples of the people (read couples!)..who are maintaining distant relationships..Well I never said that it is impossible to exist..(there is always room for exceptions!)..tell me..how many happy couples can you think of who actually maintain a good healthy happy distant relationships.!!??..And even if they do..then do their relationship possess the same charm..if they would have been together??..Well I fail to agree on that..Do help me guys..I definitely need some orientation..!
Hmm..now the movie time..!! I love this part!!..There is a movie called "Cairo Time"..You will understand what distance can do even to hugely strong relationships between two human beings..and what if the distance is agglomerated with something 'INTERESTING'!!